{"id":1250,"date":"2020-06-03T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2020-06-03T04:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ericaleeconsulting.com\/cant-what-does-that-even-mean\/"},"modified":"2021-11-10T04:06:15","modified_gmt":"2021-11-10T09:06:15","slug":"cant-what-does-that-even-mean","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/onwardbusinessmechanics.com\/staging\/4922\/cant-what-does-that-even-mean\/","title":{"rendered":"Can’t? What does that even mean?"},"content":{"rendered":"\r\n
\r\n
Erica reflects on the importance of challenging the “can’t” statements that can pop up from ourself and others .<\/figcaption>\r\n<\/figure>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

C A N ‘ T ? What does that even mean?<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

When we say “I can’t…” we can mean “I don’t want to”, or “I am afraid to try”, or “I don’t see it happening”.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

When we say that someone else “can’t” do something, we actually mean that we haven’t seen them do it yet. Nothing more!<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Can’t. It’s an assumption. It’s not a fact. Always.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

In fact the word CAN’T itself and the thought that produced it becomes the problem.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

It’s a conversation-ender. An action-preventer. A confidence-destroyer.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Whether you’re negotiating, leading a change effort, or just solving a regular everyday problem, questioning every time the word CAN’T passes someone’s lips can lead to unexpected benefits!<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

It doesn’t mean everything magically becomes possible. It means you stick around long enough to see the unexpected outcome occur. You find the way.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

And CAN’T become “Wow, I did it!” or “Hey, they can! They are doing it!” … and much more easily than you think.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

You have to be willing to see your CAN’T for what it is — as an assumption, not a fact. Where can you try this?

<\/p>\r\n